I was chatting to my friend Eric online a couple of days ago and we got around to talking about my mom being in hospital of which he mentioned that he felt that I was strong being able to face things like this on a regular basis without breaking. The fact is that there are lots of times when I feel close to breaking and it’s only by my constant talks to God in my head & heart that I conquer the days when things are particularly difficult. What is the secret of getting through difficult days? Read on and I’ll share 5 things that I do on a daily basis that I helps me press on when I feel close to giving up.
To be honest, I don’t think I am strong at all in the way the world defines strength. In fact I think I am “weak” in the eyes of the world. My answer to almost every situation in life is to pray! In fact I’m learning to pray first before acting on a lot of important things in life and instead of reacting to difficult situations I am trying my best to take a minute or two to commit things to God. It is a tough time right now with my mom still in KL General Hospital for UTI and my dad scheduled for an angiogram today at the National Heart Institute (IJN).
It’s physically tiring going back & forth to the hospital but I don’t mind cos’ at the end of the day my family is important and it’s my turn to care for them especially in trying times like this. It’s hard not knowing what will happen next but I’m learning day by day to trust God that no matter what He is still in control; even when things don’t go the way I want it to. Is it stupid to think this way? Some people might feel that success or good is defined by things happening to our expectations but I’m learning more and more each day that our expectations are small in comparison with the bigger picture that God sees.
Anyways, I promised that I’d share with everyone the 5 things I do on a daily basis that helps me make the tough go away so here they are in no particular order.
- I have learnt over the years to start the day off right by reading the Bible, meditating on a verse or two and talking to God for at least 30 minutes or so. I do this daily and thankfully I’ve been able to keep to it by God’s grace.
- I time out to pray every time life throws me a curve ball (i.e. difficult situations at work, emotional lows when I hear bad news, etc).
- I remind myself that life is not just about me; that it’s about God first & foremost and that He is good, He is in control & He will brings things to pass in His time.
- I stop complaining about the situation and I recount the things I can be thankful for so that I can realign & remember that despite life’s challenges God does indeed bless me with good things every day.
- I grit my teeth and do my best to press on in the things that are needful in the present.
I think most of you who are Christian would already know some of these things already but I suspect disciplining yourself to do it is what you struggle with. My encouragement to all of you is that it’s do-able. When I was younger I never did all these things but as I grew older I began to realise that so much of life is out of our control and the only thing that matters at the end of the day is our relationship with God. Everything else is temporal.
For those of you going through a tough season right now here’s a verse from the book of Romans to encourage you.
“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose.”
The Apostle Paul.